Communication and collaboration
ENTJs are confident and naturally take charge. They are friendly and caring but certainly not emotional or tactile and they will show they care by seeing what needs to happen, planning and pushing on with it. An ENTJ is almost entirely logical and so won’t really understand or ‘get’ emotions as they’d see it as irrational. An ENTJ once explained about someone being upset and said: “she cried at me!” So, there is a desire to help and care for people, but they don’t engage at an emotional level preferring to keep things in the realms of the logical and a desire to ‘sort it out’ rather than looking to understand and offer sympathy. They are action-oriented individuals and that permeates all aspects of their lives and so it is with relationships, ‘what’s the problem, right let’s sort it, now there’s nothing to be upset about!’
ENTJs are direct and open in how they communicate going always for clarity over subtlety, truthfulness over tact and diplomacy. Don’t ask an ENTJ if your slacks look too tight, unless you really want to know the answer, (in which case you probably knew already!) ENTJs will rarely deliberately try to cause offence or upset, it is just that they enjoy people interactions, banter, robust discussions, and they can take it as well as give it. But in relationships, if you’re more of a gentle soul, you might find an ENTJ a little brutal and raw but there only intention is to get things done and sort things out, their intent is always good, even if their execution comes across as a little harsh and unrelenting.
ENTJs do not prevaricate, they are decisive and, once they have a plan, they will want to push straight on with things. They can’t sit still or leave anything undone and to ‘just be’ would be an anathema to an ENTJ who will need to fill the unforgiving minute. In relationships this can be problematic in that sometimes people just want to be understood, to sound off, or someone to listen. But ENTJs are built to ‘do,’ and so saying ‘I’m a bit low,’ and just looking for some TLC might see the ‘problem’ analysed a solution worked out and the plan begun! This means they can project as a little bossy, but it is there way of caring, to sort it out, rather than just understand or empathise they need an answer, ‘the’ answer, the ENTJ solution, and right now, as it’s best.
ENTJs thrive on conflict, though they’d see this as interesting, robust discussions. An ENTJ can walk away from an interaction with a view that they’d had a good chat, with the other person reeling from what they saw as an argument. They have very strong opinions that they love to voice, and often. Again, the ENTJ intent is always with a good heart, to be helpful, but they can think they know best and be insistent on a course of action. This is difficult to argue against as the ENTJ will love an argument and also they will claim, and believe, that they’re doing it for your own good. The ENTJ is the ultimate believer in ‘taking your medicine’ and ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ when perhaps all you wanted was to quietly offload a problem. But if you do, it will be ‘right then here’s what you need to do,’ so be warned.