Communication and collaboration
ISFPs are quiet and unobtrusive, quite gentle and kindly but very much under the radar. They are deep and private individuals, very difficult to know, but incredibly loyal and caring, really valuing friendships and working hard, but quietly, behind the scenes, to support their friends and family. Trust will take some time to build, and if it is broken they’ll take it very badly. They are serious and concerned in that they will worry about people and want to be there for them. ISFPs feel things, they really feel them, they are superb at tuning in and reading people and situations, they notice everything, but say very little, but everything goes in and is logged so they can build up such a well-informed picture of people and how they are feeling. This is all on an emotional, gut feel, but an ISFP will rarely be wrong and as such will be superb confidantes for others as their advice will be, not just well meaning, but usually spot on.
ISFPs are far better built to listen than to speak. They are patient, kindly and will be super at opening other people up and supporting them. They are less adept at opening up themselves, even to those close to them. Often, when asked how they’re feeling, an ISFP will find it too difficult to answer because they actually don’t know, they are more attuned to the feelings of others than to their own. They enjoy, and indeed need, their own time and space and they love to immerse themselves in some hobby, or activity, usually creative, but do not ever feel the need so share this are they’re intensely private. ISFPs love to savour the moment, indulge in practical, sensory activities, enjoy them, and keep it all to themselves. They love the new and different and want to experience as much as possible.
ISFPs don’t really like closure, they like everything open-ended and without a plan, no structure or pressure, and so this can make them struggle to make decisions. Indeed, they prevaricate so long that decisions are often made for them and, to be fair, an ISFP is generally OK with that as they dislike being tied down or held to account, they love being free spirits, to do what they want to do when they want to do it. They don’t interfere with anyone and enjoy their solitary pursuits and prefer not to have too much responsibility and certainly not to have to make tough decisions as that would mean choosing that way or that way and, for the ISFP, that means closing off an option.
ISFPs like everything to be harmonious, everyone happy and free to do their own thing. They are not judgemental, and they just love it when there’s no hassle, no friction or conflict. Even though they’re very quiet and self-contained, they will always try to smooth over any arguments or conflict, indeed so much do they dislike it that they will be very proactive in wanting to bring about harmony, usually working one-on-one to support and help. The ISFP as well as being indecisive can also see two sides of the argument and so for them the ‘win’ is diffusing the tension, it’s never about who was right or wrong.