Communication and collaboration
ISTJs often struggle with the emotions of other people as they are more factual logical and of course, emotions are more irrational and so they are difficult to quantify or put in a box. This means that when confronted with emotions, an ISTJ almost has to translate them from feelings into factual, concrete language that they can understand, something tangible. ISTJs are often seen as a little cold and aloof, even that they don’t care, but this is not the case, it’s simply because they are formal, serious, factual individuals who need to process information. Also, too much ‘people time’ will run their energy levels down and they will need some quiet, thoughtful time by themselves, to recharge. This is something that extraverted types can find difficult and it can alienate ISTJs from those who want to build a relationship, but too much noise and lots going on will do their heads in.
ISTJs are extremely formal and so any personal information will emerge slowly over time and in stages as ISTJs are extremely deep and private individuals. They don’t like to share their feelings until they have built a level of trust with other people and feel they have the measure of them. However, because they don’t easily share their feelings, that doesn’t mean they don’t express their thoughts, if invited. Ask an ISTJ if your dress is a good fit, and you will get a very honest, and very factual answer, possibly one you didn’t want to hear! Their intense focus on the task, means they may forget the ‘niceties’ of relationships, even to speak, and even forget to factor their own needs, so focused are they on what they’re doing.
Dutiful and formal, an ISTJ will always stick to their word and do what they say they will do, exactly as stated, and they prefer it when other people do. Their view is ‘why say you’ll do something and then not deliver?’ This is because delivering and consistency is what ISTJs are about, it is what they value and so they will value that in others. They have a very clear sense of ‘right and wrong,’ ‘good and bad,’ and can be quite binary and purist about this.
ISTJs do not like the emotionality or noise of verbal conflict and they will prefer a more formal approach, and going, as they would say, “through the proper channels.” Trying to challenge, especially in front of others, will see the ISTJ close down, like the “shields” for the Batmobile in the 1989 first Batman movie, and they’ll become very insular.