Communication and collaboration
ISTPs are such practical, factual individuals so the subtleties of emotion are often lost on them. People do not conform to formal laws of physics and emotions are irrational and so really won’t compute. ISTPs are friendly, confident introverts, happy in their own skin and don’t really ‘get’ emotion as everything gets analysed and stored factually. They do want to help and solve problems, but they do so with a dispassionate analysis which may leave those close to them feeling processed, rather than understood. They are very focused and ‘of the moment,’ and so the ‘niceties’ of relationships may pass them by. An ISTP will also need their own personal space, which can make other people, even those close, feel a little shut out at times.
ISTPs are extremely private individuals so getting close to an ISTP would take time, if ever. Other people may have to go through the ISTP assault course to get genuinely close, few will. This is not because they are shy, just that any personal revelations will come slowly in stages as ISTPs prefer to do things at their pace in their way and don’t feel the need to ‘play the game.’ ISTPs are factual and economic with words, language to them is functional, about getting things done and clarity so they can project a little abrupt or monosyllabic in their communications. This is not being rude, (though it may project as such), just a desire to get everything resolved quickly so they get straight to the point. And if there’s nothing to say, the ISTP will say nothing.
ISTPs can appear passive until something grabs their interest, or a practical problem needs fixing and then they’ll come alive, take over, fix it, and withdraw again loving the buzz, but then go back into their box. ISTPs are thrill seekers and will love to be where the action is. However, once they have jumped in and experienced they will tend to go back to being passive and quiet, so in that sense they are either full on or full off.
ISTPs are OK with conflict, provided it has a purpose. If it’s drama, or conflict for its own sake, or emotional outbursts, an ISTP will walk away. They love problems and difficult situations they are intensely practical, wanting to get the problem solved or the issue addressed, practically and as quickly as possible. An ISTP will not look for conflict but they are impervious to their environment, so it goes with the territory, it will help get things done as quickly as possible. To an ISTP personal feelings matter only in practical terms, how they relate to what needs to be done.